To my older sibling
Author: Anonymous Abortion Date: May 1986
I am not sure if you would have been a boy or a girl, but in my heart I feel you were a girl. I remember as a young boy feeling like I didn’t belong to our parents for some reason but not understanding and constantly asking if I was adopted. Your life was taken and our parents became pregnant with me 2 months afterwards. It has been an immense struggle dealing with the guilt and feelings of inadequacy of knowing that a life was sacrificed for my own. I feel like I am not good enough to have taken your place and wish to do more. I feel you with me daily and I want you to know that I hope I am worthy to meet you when the day comes. I love you.
Jun 07, 2014 @ 13:22:54
I know what it’s like not to feel worthy or good enough, but God has healed me a lot in that way. I feel very led to tell you this. Your parents never should have aborted your sister or brother, but one of the amazing things about God is that He’s not limited by our mistakes. He’s even so great and merciful that He takes things a step further and brings something great out of something terrible. He created you with just as much love and care as He did your sibling. I would never try to lessen the impact of your sibling’s life – it’s just as important as all of ours – but please, know that you were created just as special, with as much of a great plan as anyone who didn’t come out of such a painful situation. God is great, and He created you on purpose! He loves you so much, and I truly believe that your sister or brother would want you to know that.
Oct 02, 2014 @ 22:15:16
Liz has a beautiful comment!:)
I just had to say how I can relate. As a sibling of an older aborted brother or sister, I used to ask my mom for a sibling. I also frequently asked if I was adopted. I thought I was more alone with the latter.
God has brought me healing. I will meet my sibling in Heaven one day. He has plans to use me, and He has plans to use you as well! Maybe He can use us to help save someone else’s sibling.